“Passion can burn out. Instead, actually look at the way you want to spend your days and find the skills that use all of you. The content of what you’re doing can change with your changing passion, but you feel fulfilled no matter what.”
I was honored when Michelle approached me to be interviewed for her podcast, Breaking Free. During our conversation, I told my story as I never have publicly before. To be honest, thinking about sharing it and posting it to Facebook kind of freaks me out because people are about to know A LOT about me.
But one thing I know for sure – we learn from each other’s stories. So if by being vulnerable and real about how I got where I am helps even one person, it’s worth it.
I’d love to know what you think.
Here are the introduction and show notes from Michelle
Martine Holston had a dream job after completing her Master’s program with her mentor doing really impactful work in the world.
However, 2 years in this dream job had become an all-consuming monster leaving Martine feeling stressed-out and unhappy.
And worse yet, when she looked at her management chain she knew that their life was nowhere close to her own life goals and dreams.
Even with that, it took Martine another 2 years to get up the courage to leave this job. Partly because she was emotionally attached to the organization, her mentor and the impact of her work.
And partly because she had no idea what else to do.
Martine realized that she needed a new start, but first she had to let go of her old self.
Her old job.
Her old idea of what made her ‘successful’.
She started by imagining her ideal day. This is where she discovered that her ideal day looked nothing like her current day.
And even though Martine was excited to move on to something new (which she hadn’t even figured out yet!) she knew that there was a letting go and grieving process that needed to happen.
It may seem strange to talk about quitting your job and grieving at the same time. But Martine beautifully explains why this was so important during today’s show.
Honestly… I wish I had done this when I left. Because it would have helped me to move on MUCH faster.
Martine’s 3-step grieving process that she calls the Fast Track to Grief:
- Think about all the good that has come from this situation (eg: what good has happened in you/to you as a result of this job)
- Acknowledge the bad (eg: what is this job/situation keeping you from?)
- Acknowledge what you will leave unresolved (eg: what are you ok with allowing to remain unfinished or finished by someone else)
If you’ve ever thought about leaving anything like a job, Martine’s simple 3-step process above is so powerful and will allow you to leave with an open heart to embrace what comes next.
Even though I left my job a couple of years ago (January 13, 2012), I went back and did this for my job + a couple of other things and it’s helped me tremendously since this interview.
So what is it that you want to leave and grieve? Will you try Martine’s 3-step process to see if it helps you?
In This Episode
- Martine’s backstory – how a great student lost her true purpose
- Why ignoring the grieving process will come back to bite you
- Preparing to jump – saving, planning and writing your goodbye email
- Embracing your true nature/true self
- Where she’s at today